A lonely girl is trapped in a far far away kingdom. Her nights were filled with dread and loneliness. One day, a handsome young prince came exactly to where she was. He freed her. They looked into each other’s eyes as if they knew who each other was for a very long time. The girl said she has been waiting for the man who would save her life. The prince answered that he has gone into many quests but he never found the girl who made his heart beat until now. They stared into each other’s eyes and voila, the prince knelt, asked the girl to marry him. The girl said yes and they live happily ever after. Don’t we all want Christian romance to be like that?
Isn’t this kind of story very familiar? Romance has been one of the most popular and talked about topic on this generation. It has been embedded with so many concepts of what it is and what it isn’t. It has been popularized and always comes close with fairy tales; with a man sweeping of a woman’s feet, butterflies in the stomach, that rush of feelings where you feel so very happy and content and satisfied and you feel like the world revolves around the two of you.
Guy meets girl. Happily ever after. Is this really true?
We have a notion today that being in a relationship ultimately makes us happy. Many people believe that once they met someone, then their lonely nights will disappear. A lot of men and women think that if they feel incomplete, meeting Mr. or Ms. Right will make them complete. As if every feeling of desolation will vanish once you meet the person of your dreams.
Sorry to break it to you but this is really not true. We’ll never ever meet a guy who’s going to complete us. We’ll never meet a girl who’s going to make all things right for us. We’ll never find a love so satisfying that we’ll completely forget all our disappointments and hurts in just an instant.
To be in a relationship does not mean it’s because you are lonely or sad or because you feel that half of who you is missing. We know the story of Genesis, Adam, and Eve, but God never made half of a person. He never did. He made us, human beings, complete and whole. So why do a lot of us crave for a relationship and think that it’s the only thing that would ever satisfy us?
Media has played a really big role on this. We watched movies about two people falling in love and as if everything just falls into place. Happily ever after. But what we don’t realize is that we will never find the most perfect and unconditional love on this Earth. Human beings are imperfect. We were, we are, and we will always be. But our flaws never made us lacking of who we are. We are perfectly complete in Christ.
Emptiness might be in our hearts right now maybe because we are searching for love in the wrong places or maybe because deep down inside our hearts, there are still hurts that we need to acknowledge and ask God for His healing. Emptiness is there because we are trying to feel something that only God can fill.
We are trying to infuse ourselves with a love that is just temporary. We keep on chasing for people yet we don’t know that God is chasing us. When we are dissatisfied, we tend to look for people and things to satisfy us. We try and try to look into from this world but after an exhausting pursuit, we are just left disappointed and empty-handed. But when we look to God, we only not find love, but also true joy and everlasting peace. Maybe we haven’t understood it yet. But only Jesus can fulfill the deepest desires of our heart.
Before we will truly see the love from other people, we have to first accept the love of God for us. Because no matter how many relationships we’ve been to, we’ll never ever find the love that satisfies and completes our soul. We will get disheartened one way or the other. We can search for a perfect partner or a perfect relationship over and over again but it just doesn’t exist. We cannot find the love that only Jesus can give.
What is this love? This love has laid down His life for us, accepted the sins He didn’t even committed just so He can show that we are worthy and deserving. This unconditional love is the only thing that will truly gratify our souls. This is the only love that would totally complete us.