When I was a freshman in college, a friend of mine became pregnant. She immediately decided to have an abortion.
At this point in my story, a listener could be excused for making a series of assumptions. These assumptions could include some or all of the following: it was the product of a one-night stand; her parents were livid; she had no emotional or financial support for her and her child. If my audience made one or all of these assumptions, that would be understandable because that’s how these stories generally go. At least, that’s what mainstream media and the feminist movement claim.
My audience would be wrong.
My friend became pregnant while in a relationship with a man who loved her so thoroughly, he was willing to drop out of college to support her and the baby. Her mother volunteered to take care of the child while my friend continued school. I can’t speak for all of her friends but I know I was supportive and encouraging toward her.
She decided to have the abortion, anyway. Her boyfriend felt that his love for her obligated him to respect her choice. He drove her to the clinic, walked her through a wall of protestors, and sat in the waiting room while the procedure was completed. He even paid for it. My friend later told me that while the abortion was going on, a woman screamed like she was being murdered just in the other room.
A Sad, Avoidable Ending
This abortion story ends like many others heard and acknowledged by the pro-life movement (but ignored by the pro-choice): it was a hellish experience that my friend regretted deeply. Her relationship with her boyfriend was not the same. They broke up soon after.
Why, though? Why, with several key players willing to support and help her, did my friend choose to abort her child? Because she had been brainwashed by the feminist movement, mainstream media, and liberal education to believe that having a child meant her life was over. She could no longer be who and what she wanted to be and her dreams could never come to fruition because there was now a child. She wasn’t pregnant with life but with death.
The Lie of Mainstream Feminism
The greatest lie that mainstream feminism ever told comes in two parts. First, a woman’s life ends when she gives birth to a child. It was this lie that urged my college friend to undergo her abortion. It’s seen every day in businesses that don’t offer adequate maternity leave and in feminists who act as if children and a career are two separate spheres.
The second half of the lie is that the only way a woman can stand on equal footing with men is by stripping herself of an essential difference between the sexes. In other words, in order for a woman to be equal to a man, she has to become one via birth control and abortion.
“Women really were sold this lie, especially during the 60s and 70s, that in order to be successful, in order to be career-oriented, in order to get a good education, that they needed to have the right to abortion. Honestly, it is an idea rooted in a system of patriarchy.”
Men’s bodies are the standard. They are the default. A woman is inadequate because of her ability to give birth. Her life, her independence, her individual sovereignty, ends the moment life is sparked in her womb. This devastating lie allowed abortion to become legal in the United States and what keeps it legal today.
Mainstream Feminism is Inherently PatriarchalThe greatest irony is that mainstream feminism is inherently patriarchal. These people proclaim that the patriarchy must be taken down. However, their method of granting women equality is to deny them an essential difference between men and women. When that happens, women don’t become unicorns. They are faux men.
Jeannie Mancini, president of the March for Life, asserted in an interview with EWTN that to be pro-life is to be pro-woman. She explained that the 2016 theme for the March for Life (“Pro-Life and Pro-Woman Go Hand in Hand”) was to “educate that being pro-life and pro-woman really do fit together like hand and glove.”
Society is repeatedly pushing the idea that the ideal worker is childless. Without children, there are no distractions and no drain on resources. With this socialist point of view, women are being taught that they must be pro-choice or they aren’t really pro-woman. If they were pro-woman, then they would want to choose something that promotes their independence and their careers. However, it’s all a smoke screen to create the ideal workforce.
As Mancini points out in the interview, such ideology is damaging for women.
The March for Life and True Femininity
The March for Life is a showcase of true femininity. It’s tens of thousands of men and women coming together to proclaim that a woman’s ability to give birth empowers her. Life isn’t over when new life is made. A woman does not become less when she becomes a mother.
From a woman’s perspective, the March for Life is a joyful, liberating moment. It’s when a woman can stand up and say, “I am not ashamed of my body. I am not ashamed of the differences between men and women. I am not ashamed of the beautiful gift of my sexuality.”
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